Thoughts on Adoption

Im adopted.. most people know that... but recently Ive been asked "how does it feel to be adopted".. and I might finally have an answer to that.. I was scrolling through the urban dictionary today (I know, I can be a geek sometimes) and i looked up "unrequited love".. and it gave me this..

"Its the feeling of being completely, hopelessly, desperately in love with someone, all the while knowing that your feelings will never reach them.

Its contradictory in that you feel incredible because you love someone so much, but also at the same time you feel almost overwhelming despair because you will never know what it is like to hold them in your arms, or touch their face, or kiss their lips. You will never know what it is like to wake-up next to them in bed in the morning, bodies entwined.
It can be masochistic in nature- it causes such heartache, but you enjoy loving the person so much, you willingly let your heart go through the agony, so you can hold onto something- I don't know, maybe hope?
In any case, unrequited love is a very sad thing.

"Unrequited Love"-
Its like drowning but you just won't fucking die"

 

Now most times unrequited love is thought of to be one sided wanna be romantic.. but M's birthmom has been on my mind and heart a lot the last few days.. and I think it can be fitting for her (or any birthmom).. 

"Its the feeling of being completely, hopelessly, desperately in love with someone, all the while knowing that your feelings will never reach them. Its contradictory in that you feel incredible because you love someone so much, but also at the same time you feel almost overwhelming despair because you will never know what it is like to hold them in your arms, or touch their face, tickle them, read them stories or hug them tight. You will never know what it is like to rock them to sleep at night, or hold them when they are sick.You will never see their first steps, first day of school, their first date, or possibly even their wedding day... It can be masochistic in nature- it causes such heartache, but you already love this little person so much, you willingly let your heart go through the agony, so you can hold onto something - I don't know, maybe hope? that one day they will find you....
In any case, unrequited love is a very sad thing.

"Unrequited Love"- Its like drowning but you just won't fucking die"  

I edited it a bit.. but it really works for birth moms, and adopted kids... 

Anyway.. we are finalizing our second adoption on friday.. and its going to be bittersweet. Im so blessed to have this little girl call me mommy.. but at the same time her birthmom has a broken heart.

I should go make supper =)

~J~