Yea.. its official! I closed my Xanga account less then 2min ago.
I just got so tired of the negativity, the attacks, and all the other junk.
sooo thats it for now. Have to leave to pick up the boy in a bit.
until another day!
Thursday, 23 May 2013
Thursday, 25 April 2013
My little neglected blog
I feel terrible. I completely forgot I even had this blog =( but the nice thing about blogs is that they are very forgiving.
Im going to try to write more.. I know I need to.. hopefully it will work out better this time.
Im actually going to be shutting down my xanga account. Its time I moved on from that negative place.
For today tho, I must say goodbye. I have to water plants, vacuum and clean out my fridge...
Hope you are having a lovely spring!
Im going to try to write more.. I know I need to.. hopefully it will work out better this time.
Im actually going to be shutting down my xanga account. Its time I moved on from that negative place.
For today tho, I must say goodbye. I have to water plants, vacuum and clean out my fridge...
Hope you are having a lovely spring!
Friday, 24 February 2012
Busy
Ok, i have not posted in a while... Our house has been a little busy.
First of all.. BIG NEWS!!!!! As of last Friday, the 17th, I am a Mommy!!!! We finalized our first adoption, Sheldon, whom we have had in our care for almost 4 years. It was a long, hard battle.. but I would do it again.
Wait.. did I say would? That should be "but we ARE doing it again".. thats right.. Lord willing we will go to court for crown wardship at the end of April.
Which means.. the docket date is April 24 and that is for the 3 weeks after. Now if we are very blessed (and I am praying for favor) and we are in the top 5 cases, then we will actually get to trail. If we are at the end, then we could get bumped.
For who? Well, that would be the little Princess, cute and adorable and 16 months old. We have had her for almost a year now.. and she is that tiny tyrant missing piece of our family. Pray!
So thats what we have been up to.
Now I am off to say for the 110th time today "Sheldon get off your sister!"
First of all.. BIG NEWS!!!!! As of last Friday, the 17th, I am a Mommy!!!! We finalized our first adoption, Sheldon, whom we have had in our care for almost 4 years. It was a long, hard battle.. but I would do it again.
Wait.. did I say would? That should be "but we ARE doing it again".. thats right.. Lord willing we will go to court for crown wardship at the end of April.
Which means.. the docket date is April 24 and that is for the 3 weeks after. Now if we are very blessed (and I am praying for favor) and we are in the top 5 cases, then we will actually get to trail. If we are at the end, then we could get bumped.
For who? Well, that would be the little Princess, cute and adorable and 16 months old. We have had her for almost a year now.. and she is that tiny tyrant missing piece of our family. Pray!
So thats what we have been up to.
Now I am off to say for the 110th time today "Sheldon get off your sister!"
Sunday, 18 December 2011
On the "Right to Fight"
Ive been thinking about this a lot recently, especially when it comes to birth parents.
Every child we have cared for in our home has been a wonderful blessing. They have each taught me something, and S made me a mommy.
We went through a long 3.5 year battle with S's birthmom. She has no capibility to parent him, yet she was able to drag it out for over 3 years. Why? Because she had the right to fight.
M's birthmom and maternal grandma want us to adopt her. M's birthdad, who has been told he has no chance of getting custody, is digging in his heels and making it go to court.. Because he, as nothing more then a sperm donor, has the right to fight.
Well, what about the child's rights? M has been with us for 10 months. Doesn't she have the right to stay where she is safe, loved, protected and provided for? We have had her since she was 4 months old, we are all she knows. She has the right to stay with us.
So, who's rights are more important?
The birth father?
Ours?
Or M's?
No matter which way it goes, someone will be hurt.
If he gets custody, I honestly don't know what I will do. I will be a mess for awhile. but in time I will pick up the peices, and be ready to go again. But I would worry about her for the rest of my life.
If we get crownward.. he loses his legal rights to his daughter.
There is no winning.
I wish my birthmom would fight to have me in her life the way these birth parents fight for their children.
But I am so thankful for my incredible parents... My mom is one of my best friends, and it makes it a little easier to know that she has been though what Ive been though..
Every child we have cared for in our home has been a wonderful blessing. They have each taught me something, and S made me a mommy.
We went through a long 3.5 year battle with S's birthmom. She has no capibility to parent him, yet she was able to drag it out for over 3 years. Why? Because she had the right to fight.
M's birthmom and maternal grandma want us to adopt her. M's birthdad, who has been told he has no chance of getting custody, is digging in his heels and making it go to court.. Because he, as nothing more then a sperm donor, has the right to fight.
Well, what about the child's rights? M has been with us for 10 months. Doesn't she have the right to stay where she is safe, loved, protected and provided for? We have had her since she was 4 months old, we are all she knows. She has the right to stay with us.
So, who's rights are more important?
The birth father?
Ours?
Or M's?
No matter which way it goes, someone will be hurt.
If he gets custody, I honestly don't know what I will do. I will be a mess for awhile. but in time I will pick up the peices, and be ready to go again. But I would worry about her for the rest of my life.
If we get crownward.. he loses his legal rights to his daughter.
There is no winning.
I wish my birthmom would fight to have me in her life the way these birth parents fight for their children.
But I am so thankful for my incredible parents... My mom is one of my best friends, and it makes it a little easier to know that she has been though what Ive been though..
Monday, 5 December 2011
I just want to sleep..
To All the moms out there...
Out of sheer desperation I am turning to you all for help.. My 1 yr old daughter is still not sleeping through the night. And I just don't know what to do about it. We've tried letting her cry it out, but I just can't do it. Its so mean and it goes against everything I stand for as a mom. I don't think she is waking out of habit because she is still taking a whole bottle (yes, she is on formula right now, its half formula half whole milk) and its not at the same time every night.
She naps for about 2 hours during the day, and has no problem going to sleep at bed time... but Im beginning to think this waking at night will never stop.
So moms, when did your little ones start sleeping the night? How did you get them to do it?
Any hints, or tips would be appreciated!
*please note that the issue of formula/milk is not the point of this post. The point is getting little Princess to sleep the night. So lets keep the focus there. Thank You*
Out of sheer desperation I am turning to you all for help.. My 1 yr old daughter is still not sleeping through the night. And I just don't know what to do about it. We've tried letting her cry it out, but I just can't do it. Its so mean and it goes against everything I stand for as a mom. I don't think she is waking out of habit because she is still taking a whole bottle (yes, she is on formula right now, its half formula half whole milk) and its not at the same time every night.
She naps for about 2 hours during the day, and has no problem going to sleep at bed time... but Im beginning to think this waking at night will never stop.
So moms, when did your little ones start sleeping the night? How did you get them to do it?
Any hints, or tips would be appreciated!
*please note that the issue of formula/milk is not the point of this post. The point is getting little Princess to sleep the night. So lets keep the focus there. Thank You*
Wednesday, 23 November 2011
wow
Dear Blog,
Im sorry Ive neglected you. Please forgive me..
=)
Alright so here is whats up...
As of Friday Shel will be on Adoption Probation. Which (for us) means the wait for our court date to sign the adoption papers. YAY! Most of the time AP is like 6 months long, but because we have already had our boy for 3 years and 7 months they are going to waive it. (duh!). So he gets out of JK early on Friday. and we get to do his discharge medical with CAS and then a whole whack of paper work signing. The adoption worker has told me that the next court date is Feb 17th.. 4 months away. Seems like a day after the last 3 years.
Now miss M is another story.... we have no idea what the plan is with her... I think my heart would be crushed if we have to give her back. Her bmom wants us to adopt, her maternal grandma supports us as well.. its just the birthfather who doesn't. I wish I could talk freely with him about it, but I can't. I guess we wait and see until the 28th.. then we will finally know if there is any plan for this little girl.
Some things that have happened lately have made me really lonely.... I wish I had friends who have been down this road before.. but Im just not sure I am in a place where I want to open up to people.
And I feel awful for my wonderful husband. He has a great degree, but not chance to use it right now... and his family is being terrible.. which is all my fault.
Oy.
I will try to write more late.
<3 me
Im sorry Ive neglected you. Please forgive me..
=)
Alright so here is whats up...
As of Friday Shel will be on Adoption Probation. Which (for us) means the wait for our court date to sign the adoption papers. YAY! Most of the time AP is like 6 months long, but because we have already had our boy for 3 years and 7 months they are going to waive it. (duh!). So he gets out of JK early on Friday. and we get to do his discharge medical with CAS and then a whole whack of paper work signing. The adoption worker has told me that the next court date is Feb 17th.. 4 months away. Seems like a day after the last 3 years.
Now miss M is another story.... we have no idea what the plan is with her... I think my heart would be crushed if we have to give her back. Her bmom wants us to adopt, her maternal grandma supports us as well.. its just the birthfather who doesn't. I wish I could talk freely with him about it, but I can't. I guess we wait and see until the 28th.. then we will finally know if there is any plan for this little girl.
Some things that have happened lately have made me really lonely.... I wish I had friends who have been down this road before.. but Im just not sure I am in a place where I want to open up to people.
And I feel awful for my wonderful husband. He has a great degree, but not chance to use it right now... and his family is being terrible.. which is all my fault.
Oy.
I will try to write more late.
<3 me
Monday, 25 July 2011
Poor blog!
I really feel bad, like i've been neglecting this blog.. and its not that I mean too.. I just haven't had the energy to write.
Ok brief update! Tonight we have to go to CAS to meet with our home study worker. We still have to do our updated police checks, and then medicals. But those will be done in a couple of weeks. If all goes well we could be in Happy Court by Christmas. EEEEEEEEP!
Now, a couple of problems...
I hate the Dr. Not our doc, he is really nice (but good looking, which has the potential to make things awkward) but he is phenomanal with the kids. Which is HUGE to me.
2nd problem is S's adoption worker. I don/t like her. She has caused problems in our past and I am worried that she will some how screw this up for us. I do plan on talking to his social worker about this before the file is fully handed over, and if need be we will change workers.
Third problem, is M's worker. She is a stick in the mud who has already said she is hesitant about allowing us to adopt M. This just irks me.
So in other news, I CANNOT WAIT UNTIL THURSDAY!!!
We are running away to the lake where my brother and SIL got married for 4 days, with both kids minus Tonka.
I am pretty convinced Tonka has K9ADHD or an overabundance of puppy energy. But I just got my membership with Brad Pattison so hopefully he will have some helpful stuff on his training videos.
In more other news, S starts JK in September. WOWZERS! Where did the last 4 years go?
Well little M is ticked off wanting her baba so I should go.
Have a lovely day!
Ok brief update! Tonight we have to go to CAS to meet with our home study worker. We still have to do our updated police checks, and then medicals. But those will be done in a couple of weeks. If all goes well we could be in Happy Court by Christmas. EEEEEEEEP!
Now, a couple of problems...
I hate the Dr. Not our doc, he is really nice (but good looking, which has the potential to make things awkward) but he is phenomanal with the kids. Which is HUGE to me.
2nd problem is S's adoption worker. I don/t like her. She has caused problems in our past and I am worried that she will some how screw this up for us. I do plan on talking to his social worker about this before the file is fully handed over, and if need be we will change workers.
Third problem, is M's worker. She is a stick in the mud who has already said she is hesitant about allowing us to adopt M. This just irks me.
So in other news, I CANNOT WAIT UNTIL THURSDAY!!!
We are running away to the lake where my brother and SIL got married for 4 days, with both kids minus Tonka.
I am pretty convinced Tonka has K9ADHD or an overabundance of puppy energy. But I just got my membership with Brad Pattison so hopefully he will have some helpful stuff on his training videos.
In more other news, S starts JK in September. WOWZERS! Where did the last 4 years go?
Well little M is ticked off wanting her baba so I should go.
Have a lovely day!
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